Why do women (in general) put such pressure on themselves to have everything prefect to meet our own and everyone’s expectations? Why do we set the bar so high or have unrealistic expectations day in and day out?
I hear this so often from parents, particularly mums and I often wonder – Why do we do it to ourselves? Some days you can accomplish an array of tasks other days even one task seems insurmountable.
Why do women (in general) put such pressure on themselves to have everything prefect to meet our own and everyone’s expectations? Why do we set the bar so high or have unrealistic expectations day in and day out? We put a smile on our face, put the lipstick on and “pretend” that everything is under control. The reality is its ok to say you’re having a rough day –NOBODY that lives in the real world and who is honest with themselves (whether with or without babies, employed or unemployed, etc., etc.) Has a good day, every day.
My suggestion would be to “let your guard down” a little. People are only too willing to help 9 times out of 10 – they just need to know WHERE or WHAT would be the most help to you. Occasionally things are out of our control but mostly we create the drama, stress and unrealistic expectations to ourselves and in turn our babies. Appointments, deadlines and social gatherings, etc. usually can be rearranged to spread the load. It doesn’t (or very rarely) all have to be done in one day.
If you made a list of 10 things you’d like to do each day – if you managed to tick one thing off that list – then it’s been a good day! Because the reality is, you were NEVER going to tick 10 things off that list! I assure you, life would be less frenetic and you’d be able to stop and smell the roses and enjoy the smiles and milestones of your growing baby.
Your baby and your partner would thank you, but more importantly our own mental wellbeing would be in a better space.