By Calmbirth Educator Kath Maxwell
Lets be honest, being a mum is hard work. The demands that today’s mothers are under are different to those of generations that came before, being time poor is one such challenge. Each generation has its own story.
Women that I see coming to my Calmbirth Classes have full (phone) diaries ; with work, family and social commitments. It is lucky that they had a weekend free to come to the course. Couples book in weeks if not months in advance to ensure they make room in their lives to attend.
With such full lives, how do we make time for babies…children?…. make room for love?
Lives do change when a baby arrives, some women feel the changes more so than others. But never the less change occurs.
Babies have a wonderful ability to bring us into the present moment.
Those early breastfeeds may take up to one hour and babies need at least 8 breastfeeds in 24hrs. But nature has a plan. Women need to recover from birth and bond with their babies, so these lengthy feeds allow rest and love to grow. Babies help us to see what is really important, they challenge, move and frustrate us, and bring immense joy and happiness.
And yes, there will come a time when you won’t remember life before your baby arrived… that life now is more complete and you wouldn’t change a thing.
For those of you who may struggle with the initial adjustments, perhaps this quote may offer another view to what you are experiencing. I can relate to it and wish I had this to remember during those challenging times…as my heart grew.
‘The most difficult part of birth is the first year afterwards. It is the year of travail – when the soul of a woman must birth the mother inside her. The emotional labour pains of becoming a mother are far greater than the physical pangs of birth; these are the growing surges of your heart as it pushes out selfishness and fear and makes room for sacrifice and love. It is a private and silent birth of the soul, but it is no less holy than the event of childbirth, perhaps it is even more sacred.” Joy Kusek, LCCE