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My waters dramatically broke at midnight, and contractions quickly followed. Not even an hour later, they were 5mins apart and almost one minute long. It was then that I noticed quite a bit of meconium stained liquor on my pad. We called the midwife. After a 40min car trip we arrived to the hospital. Once there, more meconium. I was offered by my midwife to do a vaginal examination. I was 7cm, but my midwife couldn’t feel baby’s head. I immediately knew what that meant, she a breech and so we agreed on a c-section.

From then, it was very dramatic. We waited 30mins for an O.R. theatre to be available, and in that time, I got to 9cm. Doctors said “there’s someone on the way who’s interested in vaginal breech”, but that sounded like a science experiment to me! The difference between doctors and midwives was astounding! By the time they prepared me for the spinal, I was fully dilated and desperately trying not to push. 10mins later our baby girl, who had secretly been frank breech* (!!) was born by Caesarean Section. She was perfectly healthy! 

Whilst we certainly had an intense ending, what you said was so true – ‘it’s about how you’re made to feel’. It was a very fast and intense labour and I was very close to having her vaginally – but with all said and done, I loved my labour. I did everything I wanted to do – laboured at home, laboured to full dilation, no drugs (only the tens machine and gas), I just missed the ending. However, I’ve been cleared for VBAC next time!

In terms of the other helpful pieces of information that got me through:

  • I really noticed the waves of the contractions: 20sec rise, 20sec intensity, 20sec fall
  • Your words continued to run through my head – “You can do anything for 60sec”
  • That I had autonomy over my body. I really felt like I was being pressured to deliver vaginally. In the midst of trying not to push, my partner and I remained firm (with the help of my midwife)
  • I also loved the way you covered over the c-section content. You didn’t fear monger, you just stated the facts – that it’s simply another option, when required, to birth baby safely. I think that helped me overcome the stigma of it

Most of all, my partner and I both felt really prepared and even excited when that first contraction hit, which was mostly due to the information from Calmbirth and how you presented!

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