Thank you so much for the opportunity to participate in the Calmbirth weekend. I’m not being hyperbolic when I say that it has completely changed my attitude towards birth. I expected that it would help reduce the anxiety I had about labour, birth, tears, c-sections, what if this went wrong, what if it wasn’t ideal, what if I had to do x, what if I couldn’t do y. It has absolutely done that!
But I didn’t expect that I would walk away from your class feeling EXCITED and EMPOWERED about my labour. I didn’t expect that I would be looking at my calendar, counting down the days until it was time to give birth to my baby. I didn’t even think I’d have the courage to ask for what I wanted, rather than just let my midwife do whatever she thought was best. I thought that labour was the painful, traumatic consequence of being a mother. I now understand that it’s all part of the experience of having a child. I understand that it might be painful and it might not go “to plan” – it might even get “really bad” – but I’m so much more prepared for any eventuality. I’ve become the yoga instructor you told us about: I honestly believe that I WILL have an amazing birth.
It has empowered my husband, Conan, too, and has absolutely given him a role in labour. When we were driving home he said, “you know, this weekend made me realise that I have a lot to do. I probably have more to do than you do! It’s my job to make sure you can concentrate on having our baby.” How true is that!? I’m so much more confident in his ability to support me and I value the part he has to play. We don’t think of it as something that I’M doing, but rather something that WE’RE doing. We’ve truly become a team.
You’ve really turned me into a raving Calmbirth fan. I admit that I was skeptical – I expected a lot of woo, but I was pleasantly surprised to see the Calmbirth concepts backed up by solid science. I can’t think of a single woman for whom Calmbirth isn’t appropriate, whether they’re “crunchy” Earth-mother types or more modern “silky” mums. Whenever I meet other pregnant women I’m like “sooo… have you thought about antenatal classes? Because there’s this thing called Calmbirth…”
Having a child is such a monumental occasion in a woman’s life, and you’ve already made my experience exponentially better.
I’m so glad we chose you.